Is he the Right Match For You?
So you think you’ve found a suitable match? And the reason you like him is because he’s great to look at, has a good personality and cares for you. But is that enough? Not really! We list down 4 things you need to consider before you make up your mind of settling down with the one you like…
1. Discussing your future with the person you’re meeting for the first time is the biggest mistake one can do. Remember, it’s your first meeting, so just go slow. May be you liked him, but that doesn’t mean it’s a ‘YES’ from him too. So, get to know each other better and only when you’re sure he is the perfect match for you, discuss your future plans.
2. Trust is an important factor in every relationship, agreed! But here, you are going to be spending the rest of your life with this man, so it’s always good to be a little alert. Just because he said he loves you and wants to marry you, doesn’t mean he will. So, don’t start imagining your life with him already. Give it sometime and only after he discusses things with his parents, you should get your family involved too.
3. Why do you think s/he is a suitable match for you? This is an important question that you need to ask yourself. Find out what are the things that you like about him/her and what makes you think you can be happy with the person? Of course, compatibility and common likes/dislikes is important but there’s a lot more than that you need to consider. His job, lifestyle, spending habits, etc. In the initial months, we suggest you observe every little thing about him/her before you decide to settle down together.
4. Marriage is not just the coming together of two people, but two families. So, just because the guy is good, doesn’t mean your marriage will be successful. You also have to live with his parents, so it’s important that you get along with them and vice versa. This is not something you can find out in a month or two. Getting to know his family will take you a couple of months but do not ignore this.
– Vipasha Pillai