One question that every couple is asked is, “How did you guys meet?” And, usually it’s either through a mutual friend, at the workplace, at an event or may be through family. Our story is slightly different. We met on Shaadi.com and we just call it a blessing. I was strongly opposed to anything related with Shaadi.com. My mom on the other hand, would check the site everyday encouraging me to find someone online. I kept saying “I’m not going to go on Shaadi.com.” Finally, after days of persuading me, mom succeeded and I visited the matrimonial site. It was my first time on Shaadi.com and I wanted to protect my identity.
So, I signed in under my mom’s username, Shyla2008. As I was scrolling through different profiles, “Lame, lame, super-lame,” was all I kept muttering to myself. I knew this was going to be a waste of time. I suddenly came across a profile and my first reaction was, “Whoa he’s cute!” I continued to read the profile and after a while I said to myself, “Wow, this guy seems really cool.” But, I never contacted him because I thought he wouldn’t be interested. So, I let it go but that profile stayed in the back of my mind. A year passed, and yet again I found myself looking at Shaadi.com. To my surprise, I saw KalElVZ up on the listings. I don’t know what came to my mind but for the first time in my life I expressed interest and messaged a guy.
Two days later, I received a message in my inbox from KalElVZ, whose name was finally revealed as ‘Vinoj’. In his first email to me, Vinoj mentioned he was going on a business trip that weekend, and he would write to me after getting back. I knew that this was code for, ‘Not interested.’ But, Vinoj did actually email me back. We emailed each other for a week, followed by instant messaging, phone calls, and then the most frightening part: videochat. After some initial hesitation on iChat (we’re also Mac lovers), we couldn’t believe how much we had in common. We were born in the same country, have the same breed of dog, love food, and the insane amount of family connections.
It truly felt like divine intervention. I still remember the day when Vinoj said “I’d love to come see you. Whenever you’re ready, you can let me know.” WHAT? A guy across the country was willing to come see me? It felt unreal. But, after much thought and prayer, I knew I had to meet him. On September 11, 2009, Vinoj and I finally met. By the end of the weekend, I knew I would miss him even though we had met just once. I couldn’t believe everything I was feeling, and after much prayer, I knew: He was it. Things worked out and we finally got married on 31 July, 2010.
- Contributed by Anisha